The Arrow of Accusation

(Proverbs 31:11 KJV)  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Here Proverbs is talking about the relationship between husband and wife.  I think for the principle being dealt with here we can set aside the gender roles.  I also think we need to reverse the arrow of accusation.  We want to focus on “can I trust my spouse?”  Let’s face it.  If you can’t, there is little you can do about it but soldier on.  You cannot change the person you marry.  Many people spend a lifetime trying.

But you can change yourself.  You can make yourself worthy of trust.  Ultimately this resolves back to you trusting God and allowing the Holy Spirit to mold you into an upright child of God.  Who knows, your becoming more worthy might be a tool God wants to make your spouse more worthy.  Either way the ball is in your court.

So?  Don’t blame the other person even if they deserve it.  Focus on what you have a chance of changing with God’s help, yourself.  Let today be different from yesterday and tomorrow a sanctified version of yesterday.