Marriage Woes

(Pro 30:23 KJV) For an odious woman when she is married; and an handmaid that is heir to her mistress.

This verse gives us a clue to why some marriages are full of misery.  If you start with the NASB who describes the woman as “unloved” (8130) you see one scenario.  Picture a woman who has never been loved.  She may have had no father or a father who failed in every important way.  She may have never been Daddy’s Princess.  It is possible that even her mother rejected her.  She is a walking time bomb if she manages to get married.

Take it a step further as the KJV has “odious”.  This translation says the woman in question is really impossible to be around.  The cause may have been she was unloved as a child.  The cause could be a refusal to acknowledge sin in her life.  Regardless, she is destined to make the life of her husband and children miserable.  

And of course the lesson goes the other way.  There are men who are odious too.

So?  There is not much you can do about someone’s past or present.  You can be lifting them up in prayer because God has the ability to remake the odious if they are willing to be remade.