Timing

(Pro 25:9 KJV)  Debate thy cause with thy neighbour himself; and discover not a secret to another:

I think we have the seed of the teaching of Jesus about conflict in the church.

(Mat 18:15 KJV)  Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.

Too often we complain about what others do before we talk to them about it.  The point is not to avoid the issue, just the opposite.  We are to be proactive in conflicts but the point is to go to the source.  The hope is to be reconciled.  Sometimes the reconciliation comes because a misunderstanding is cleared up.  Sometimes it comes with confession and repentance.  If personal contact doesn’t work you can continue reading what Jesus said.

So?  Keep problems small and contained if it is possible.  There is always tomorrow to up the ante.